“I will forever regret you.”
If that statement were directed at you, think for a moment how you might feel.
Saddened? Without a doubt.
Those words were in a message I received on Facebook today, out of the blue, from a friend I haven’t seen or talked to in several months. Be aware that I have done nothing to wrong this person. Her words were simply generated by disapproval of my choices in life. Not to mention, this individual has a reputation for creating havoc in her personal relationships. When we were close, I often worried for her, as did a handful of mutual friends. She frequently slashed and burned familial ties and dissolved friendships over trivial issues. So, her heartless words should come as no surprise.
Still, reading “I will forever regret you” still stings.
So, I did what any melodramatic 20-something would do: I cried. And cried. Then I ate some chocolate. And then cried some more.
But why did I care so much about her judgmental, disapproving message? Because of this fundamental truth:
WE ALL WANT TO BE LOVED.
Fortunately, after a conversation with a trusted friend, I was able to pull myself together. The initial indignation I felt has passed. The tears have dried. And I actually give this former companion credit for helping me to learn a very important lesson:
Not everyone on this planet is going to love me. And that’s okay.